Thursday, January 3, 2008

New Year's Resolution

It's that time of year again...resolution time. Oftentimes people make resolutions to lose weight or get out of debt or start a new business. All of which are great, but are external.

This year focus on the internal you...
  • Determine to achieve emotional healing from a break-up or divorce.
  • Re-establish who you are in your new single role.
  • Make a commitment to re-build family relationships. It is therapeutic!
  • Commit to replace negative feelings (bitterness, anger, strife) with positive feelings (peace, hope, love).
  • Terminate toxic relationships. You know the kind that evoke pain at contact or leave you feeling empty and drained.
  • If all else fails, don't be embarrassed to seek counseling. It works!
Sometimes resolutions are difficult to keep. Make sure they are S-M-A-R-T:
  1. Specific - be very clear about what you hope to achieve.
  2. Measurable - identify ways to measure your progress.
  3. Achievable - don't try to boil the ocean. Even if your resolution is lofty, break it down into smaller, easily attainable chunks.
  4. Relevant - setting resolutions for the sake of setting them is a waste of time. Commit to a resolution that is meaningful to you and makes you a better person.
  5. Time-bound - don't commit to resolutions that will take you five years to achieve. It should be achievable in its totality during 2008.

Involve your close friends and/or relatives by sharing your resolution and asking them to hold you accountable. Make 2008 your year of emotional success!

4 comments:

Mister-M said...

My resolution, if I could find some way to do it legally, would be to get rid of my psycho ex-wife. In the meantime, I will share my story as a warning to others about getting married and/or having children - this could be you as it is for so many people across the world:

http://www.thepsychoexwife.com

njm said...

mister-m,

I visited your blog. I understand your plight wholeheartedly!

I hope you visit and comment often.

Mister-M said...

Thanks for the visit. I wish that our system didn't set everything up to be such a nightmare by default... but for now, that's the sick system we have to live in.

I have a lot of history to unload, so double-up on the popcorn for future visits!

njm said...

I'll continue to visit!